Soul Cosmic by Himani

By Himani Goyal, Counsellor | Soul Cosmic Healing

Heartbreak isn’t just emotional—it’s energetic, spiritual, and often, physically draining. When someone we love leaves or lets us down, it feels like the ground beneath us has disappeared. As a counsellor, healer, and spiritual guide, I’ve witnessed the silent screams behind many smiles. If you or someone you care about is unable to come back to “normal” after a heartbreak, this blog is for you.

Let’s walk gently into the healing space together. 🌸

🌿 1. Allow Them to Grieve. Don’t Rush Them to ‘Move On’

A heart that’s been cracked open needs safe space, not quick fixes. Let them cry, repeat the same story, or sit in silence. Don’t say, “It’s time to let go.” Say instead:

✨ “I’m here when you need to talk or even just sit.”

Counsellor’s Tip: Validate their emotions instead of trying to fix them. Grieving is part of healing.

💖 2. Mirror Their Pain, But Gently Uplift Their Hope

Tell them:

“Yes, it hurts. But what hurts today will shape your strength tomorrow.”

When someone is shattered, they don’t need cheerleading—they need soul anchoring.

Counsellor’s Tool: Practice active listening + reflective empathy:

💬 “I hear that you’re feeling completely lost… and it’s okay. This pain is real. But so is your ability to feel love again.”

🌸 3. Help Them Reclaim Their Identity

Heartbreak can blur our self-worth. Help them rediscover who they were before the relationship—and who they’re becoming now.

✨ Ask them: “What made you feel alive before this person came?”

✨ Invite them to explore hobbies, spiritual practices, journaling, or even laughter therapy.

Counsellor’s Strategy: Encourage them to write a “Letter to Self” – honouring their journey and promising to protect their peace going forward.

🧘‍♀️ 4. Introduce Soul-Soothing Practices

When emotions run wild, grounding is essential. Introduce them to:

Mindful breathing (4-7-8 technique) Affirmation therapy (e.g., “I deserve love that doesn’t confuse me”) Candle healing or full moon release rituals Light movement (walks, yoga, or expressive dance) Spiritual reading or chanting (e.g., Nam-myoho-renge-kyo)

These aren’t distractions. They are portals to inner peace.

🫶 5. Reframe the Breakup Spiritually

Sometimes the deepest heartbreaks are divine redirections.

✨ Maybe it wasn’t rejection—it was redirection.

✨ Maybe this person wasn’t your soulmate, but your soul teacher.

Counsellor’s Perspective: Help them understand karmic connections, lessons, and contracts from a spiritual lens. This brings purpose to the pain.

💌 6. Create a Safe Plan for Daily Stability

People stuck in heartbreak often spiral into isolation, insomnia, or apathy. Gently co-create a daily plan:

Morning grounding ritual 1 action for the body (walk, hydrate) 1 action for the mind (journaling, therapy) 1 soul action (chanting, meditation, art) Set a “small win” goal daily

Small steps restore lost self-trust.

🌈 7. Encourage Professional Support When Needed

If they show signs of prolonged hopelessness, depression, or self-harm, it’s time for gentle redirection to therapy or energy healing.

Let them know:

✨ “Healing doesn’t mean forgetting. It means releasing the hold pain has over you.”

🦋 Final Healing Whisper from Me to You:

Dear Broken Soul,

You’re not broken. You’re becoming.

Sometimes the Universe breaks your heart to rebuild your spirit in truth.

You will love again, laugh again, and live again.

Until then, let healing be your highest priority—and allow yourself to be held by hope.

With compassion,

Himani Goyal

Counsellor | Spiritual Healer | Soul Cosmic Guide